His latest email ended by saying it would be great to meet up and have a chat when he gets back from a long weekend away, so I may not have to make the suggestion myself.
Of course I will still have to summon up the courage to actually go along and meet him in person. I am likely to be absolutely terrified, worried about what to say and nervous about awkward silences. I think I am just plain scared of any man who might be a potential boyfriend.
I am actually pretty busy at weekends the next couple of months so I'm not quite sure when this meeting up could take place. He lives close enough that we could meet in the evening but then that would probably have to involve dinner, and I think I'd rather have a shorter date to start with, maybe just a coffee. If it goes well it can be extended, but if it goes badly we're not stuck in a restaurant until we've finished eating.
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Have you swapped phone numbers yet? That might be a good way to ease into the date so that you're not left waiting for ages for the actual date to arrive. That way, you get a better sense of what he's like -- you can hear how he sounds and get a better inkling of whether the conversation over dinner/coffee will be good or bad.
If it turns out you can't meet up on the weekend and you're stuck meeting during the work week, I think you might be stuck with dinner...which isn't always a bad thing. Everybody always thinks that coffee is quick, but whether it's dinner or coffee, you're still stuck waiting things out so you don't seem rude.
With dinner, I like to skip appetizers and I don't drink.
It was actually in "Ugly Betty" -- S.A.D.D. It's easy to remember. =)
We haven't swapped phone numbers yet, it hadn't really occurred to me, but you're right it's probably a good idea to try to speak to him by phone before meeting. I'd certainly feel more comfortable about seeing him in person if I'd spoken to him already.
And I hadn't particularly thought about the rudeness aspect of ending a coffee date too soon. I could finish drinking a coffee in 10 minutes but you can't end the date that soon. At least with dinner you have food to eat during any awkward silences.
I will definitely remember S.A.D.D! :)
swapping numbers is definitely good. in fact, he should ask for yours after you've agreed to meet him. it's nice if you guys have a conversation before meeting up for the first time (and i think he should call) but i think it's okay if there isn't a phone conversation.
dinner dates aren't neccesarily a bad thing 'coz like you said, if you find yourself with nothing to say to him, at least you could concentrate on your food. i generally find it slightly inconsiderate if the guy asks me out for drinks on a week day night. it's as though he couldn't quite care less bout my dinner.
relax and have fun :)
do keep us posted :)
I agree with Jo -- keep us updated! I guess the reason I'm so interested is because we're sort of in the same boat. =)
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