It's been a while and there isn't a great deal to report. I've become sort of lethargic about the whole online dating thing. There's been a few more longish messages between me and Scarf Guy, but he has made no mention of meeting up. Even if he had I haven't had many free weekends recently. I've had a few get togethers with friends and I've been on holiday and the few times I have had a weekend to myself I've just felt like vegging. Yes I could have suggested meeting myself, but I think the fact that I didn't probably indicates that I'm not that interested in him.
I've had the odd bit of interest from a couple of other eharmony guys but at the moment I'm really just feeling "can't be bothered" about it all. I can't put my finger on why. Maybe it feels like hard work? Harder than meeting someone in real life, getting to know them and things developing from there. I know though that if I don't make the effort I can't really sit around and complain. The ideal man isn't just going to appear from nowhere. But how I go about getting back my enthusiasm and energy I'm not sure.
I still have enthusiasm and energy in the rest of my life. I had a great, fun time on holiday with T, I've been happy spending time with friends and I had a really entertaining evening with my work colleagues the other week. I have various "dates" in my diary for the next month or two. Trouble is, none of them are with men.
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i think that things with scarf guy is taking so long that it might actually now be even harder to transition to a face to face meeting.
it's good that you still have a zest for life even if you aren't quite in the mood to date. i reckon that that is perfectly okay. continue to be happy and enjoy your life, with or without dates with men. i think you're actually in a better place this way to even find a man to date.
Hi hun! Listen, I think it sounds like you're happy and content just where you are in life. Single and spending time with the loved ones you already have in your life. Sometimes for some people, this is simply enough. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with it! As long as you're having fun and enjoying life, however you are living it should not matter in the slightest. If you're unhappy and the sole reason for you being unhappy is being single, then you should get out there and date, date, date! However, if you're perfectly happy without a mate, then who can say there's anything wrong with it?!
Because I'm on the eHarmony boat, as well, all I can offer you is my own experience: I wasn't horribly interested in this one guy I was talking to and when I finally met up with him, it only confirmed what I'd already known in my gut: I wasn't interested.
But, I know what you mean about lethargy. It just seems like a lot of work, doesn't it? And I keep hearing that it's not supposed to be like that when you finally do meet "the one" -- it's supposed to suddenly become easy.
Oh well. Who knows?
I did find a success story on eHarmony that I did choose to post, if you want to read about it.
In a weird way, it gives me hope...and maybe hope's not a bad thing to have.
Thanks for the comments all. I think I have pretty much decided that it's not worth meeting Scarf Guy. He seems "nice" enough but I don't feel any huge urge to meet him in person.
AV - I do feel happy on most areas of my life. I have some good friends, work is going ok, I'm doing some fun things. Sometimes I do wonder if that's enough for me, then I spend time alone, away from the people I love, or I come home to an empty house and I feel I want to be with someone and am really not sure if I can be single forever.
Ecrivain - I'll take a look at the eharmony success story. A little bit of hope can only be a good thing. It really does seem like a lot of work, especially when pretty much everyone I know in real life met their husbands/boyfriends as they were just going about their everyday lives, they seemed not to have to put that much effort into it.
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