Now I have a text message from eHarmony guy to reply to. He texted Tuesday to ask how a sponsored swim I did at the weekend went. I was busy Tuesday evening and didn't get around to replying. I thought that might give him a signal that I wasn't really interested but then yesterday evening while I was out with friends he texted to ask how I was and whether I wanted to meet up again.
I am struggling to know how to respond. I don't want to meet him again, but am not sure how to put that politely. I also don't know whether I need to, or should, explain why not. I suppost I could just say I didn't feel there was any chemistry between us, but it sounds a bit like a scripted answer, the sort that eHarmony uses (or used to, they don't seem to want a reason anymore when closing matches).
5 comments:
I think it would be better (for both you and him) to avoid going into a specific explanation. Maybe something like this?
Hi eH Guy.
Thanks for the text! The swim was _____.
I'm sorry but I feel that we aren't the best fit for each other. You're a great person. I like [insert something positive about him] and I know you have a lot to offer the right girl. I wish you all the best! :)
Thanks 30sv :) I sent him a text earlier, with a bit of help from your suggestion. Hopefully it came across ok.
You know, at least you're on eHarmony. I got rejected when I try to register.
The hell?
Anyways, new reader here. Looking forward to the next post.
i was going to suggest forever never being available till he gets the hint haha! but yes, 30sv's suggestion is the best and most mature. what did he say?
Hey Jo! It was tempting to just keep being unavailable, but decided that mature was the way to go. I haven't had a reply from him which sort of feels a bit rude of him, but I guess he may be feeling rejected. I feel I handled it the right way though.
The Constantly Dramatic One - hi and thanks for the comment. Hope eHarmony stops rejecting you.
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