- When you're going out with someone how do you start sleeping together? Does one of you suggest it?
- What does the woman do in bed?
- What do people mean when they say that someone is "good" or "bad" in bed?
- Is it easy to kiss someone or do you need to know what to do?
- How do you know what to do the first time you sleep with someone? Does it come naturally or do you have to guess? Is the first time embarrassing or frightening?
- When is it normal to sleep with someone? On a first date? After a couple of weeks? Couple of months? Six months? What would a man expect?
- Does it hurt? Does it take a long time to learn how to do it properly?
They seem so basic, so childish, so naive in parts. Although I have sort of found out from magazines like Cosmopolitan and from the internet what the woman is supposed to do, I obviously only know in theory. And the rest of the questions I still don't know the answers to. I am 38 this year. I shouldn't have been asking the sort of questions a 14 year old might ask when I was 24. I certainly shouldn't still be asking them at almost 38.
4 comments:
Yeah, I can relate to this.
Just tweak the age by a year and switch the gender.
We can at least take solace that we are both trying to move forward.
Hope all is well on the other side of the Atlantic.
Here's another one. Seems we're not alone. (M 38)
God. I don't know. I'm too scared to ask myself these questions. Especially number two... I'm hoping that when my time comes, I'll just go with it and it won't be too bad.
I used to have a preoccupation with wondering about whether it would be good for the guy I'd do it with- I'd look up kegel exercises and stuff. Eventually, I realized that it was futile to look up things that had a slim chance of happening at that point in my life.
Thank you for writing and sharing this. So important to see others in the same situation. Very helpful just to hear someone else say these things.
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