Well there isn't really much to update on eharmony. I sent off my questions to guy number one, then looked through the rest of my matches and sent them to four more. I got home tonight and had yet more matches, so sent off questions to four of them. I'm not really sure how many is a sensible number to contact, but based on advice from Ecrivain, I've contacted all those who interested me. I also requested a picture from a couple of guys who sounded interesting.
Last time I logged on a grand total of zero men had answered my questions, which doesn't worry me yet as the first ones I contacted have only had a day or two. I've just checked now and two of them have "closed the match", which is disappointing but not the end of the world.
What is annoying is that one of them used the option of "other" for the reason. Especially so since all the guys who have closed the match without any contact from me have also said "other". Really??? None of the other options was applicable? I've closed a few matches myself and have not used other once. My main one has been that after reading the profile I'm not interested in the match. I also used age gap once. Is it me or is other a cop-out? If it's the way I look couldn't they at least say they'd rather not say?
Of all the many people I've been matched with so far none has opened communication with me, though some have viewed my profile. Maybe they haven't paid the subscription, or maybe they haven't logged on recently, who knows.
Some of the guys didn't appear to have made any effort whatsoever with their introductory information, putting in random strings of letters for several answers. Needless to say, I closed those straight away. Others had bad grammar and spelling which I find exceedingly irritating, but as long as it wasn't horrendous I have ignored it so far. A few had given answers which didn't make sense, were pretentious, or were just plain bizarre. I guess I am coming across a much wider range of and many more men that I do in day to day life. It really is eye opening.
On a completely different note, my friend T is coming to visit tomorrow, so I should have a fun day.
7 comments:
I'm enjoying reading about your experience with online dating! I hope you are able to connect with some people that you are interested in! Good luck!
Thanks AV! I'll try my best to update more often than I have been, though if nobody contacts me, there might not be much to update!
im looking forward to hearing more about your experience with eharmony. i've recently turned a blind eye to all online dating and shut down my *free* accounts as i got bored with them/tired of awkward first dates...
maybe you will give me hope to try again.
online dating really is quite an eye opener. i'm glad that you're making the most outta the whole experience. but honestly all you need is that one good match. hopefully that happens for you :)
Thanks for the comments ladies :) I'm not sure I'm looking forward to awkward first dates but am trying to think positively and contact anyone who seems interesting. You're right Jo, all I need ons one good match...
Don't worry too much if you don't get a reply right away. My rule of thumb is...if it gets to be "too" long (i.e. three weeks or more), then you should just close the match. Chances are, they signed up but then decided not to pay for a membership. So, in that case, it's them, not you. =)
As for the "other" option -- I have to admit, I'm guilty of using that. Actually, I wrote to the eHarmony people to complain because, personally, I don't like having to pick a reason. If they had a blank space where I had to put down the reason, I don't think my real reasons for closing a match would be all that great. (I.e. "You look really creepy.")
And I know what you mean about guys not making the effort in their introductory information. I mean, if I went to the trouble, is it so much to ask that they do the same?
I have been wondering whether some of the guys had signed up then decided against subscribing. I've noticed few of the ones I've contacted haven't even viewed my profile so I thought maybe they weren't even logging in.
I'm not a big fan of the whole giving a reason either. If you've been in contact with someone then I guess it seems polite to give a reason for stopping contact, but if they're just a name and a face it seems a bit superfluous. And there have been some cases for me too where the real reason wouldn't have been great.
Ah well, I'll see what matches tomorrow brings.
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